DOPAMINE DETOX | How To Take Back Control Over Your Life

The Art of Forgiveness

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping

it will kill  your enemies.”
Nelson Mandela

Forgiving is an art that only few people are truly able to master it regardless of any barriers in front of them, Oprah Winfrey, the well-known American television show, actress and entrepreneur says “True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience”. That is, she affirmed that the real forgiveness is when learning from the experiences we were through as a result throwing away all the anger and hate inside of us toward what we experienced, as a result getting definitely the peace and joy from freeing totally ourselves from those negative feelings and thoughts. It’s true that sometimes it’s hard to forgive especially if it comes to someone special did something unforgivable , however the fact of being aware of how much pain we do make to ourselves because of those emotions of anger we will surely forgive that person immediately since when are strongly attached to that negative experience so that having much negative energy and always staying hold to past experience as a consequence forgetting our present , our life and our pure self , a self-full of love , joy , happiness and positivity but only focusing in negativity . In other words, ignoring forgiveness turn the person into another one, completely different full of hate and anger. Moreover, Ibrahim Elfiky , a doctor in self-development field confirms “ "The power of love and forgiveness in our life can make miracles", he affirmed that to forgive means to attract miracles to your life and that comes when you mostly free yourself from any negative thought  toward anyone you have gone through a bad experience with and genuinely cut of your thinking with the past . As a result, you become your true version which surely permits you attract more positive events into your life due to the positive feelings and thinking, full of forgiveness, peace and love.

The five second rule book written by Mel Robbins

 The five second rule

‘’The moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must count backward 5-4-3-2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you’’ Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins, the author and writer of the 5 second rule book, the well-known book on the precedes decades as it was one of the most read one since it has made a hug change in people’s lives which has turned people from procrastinated and lazy to enthusiastic, successful and courage people who can definitely do things than could change their lives to its best version. The 5 second rule, is a book related to self-development field in which it easily pushes a person to be more productive, courageous and energetic in his life so that acting and doing a lot of beneficial things that he couldn’t do in the past. The core of the book is its rule and how a person can use it to turn his life out , it is like a changing point , simply the rule is only about counting backward for 5 second then taking action and acting immediately without letting any second for the brain to make excuses and stops a person doing the right thing , this has a deep relation to a brain and Mel robins has strongly proven and given all the evidence that when hesitating from doing things the brain starts improvising virtual events and excuses to stop the physical movement from doing what it need to be done at any situation. The author considered courage as the most crucial concept in the book for it does truly help the person to act, and to achieve that courage the rule should be used efficiently in the right time as a consequence controlling the current situation. She also added an important and meaningful understanding , she points out ‘’ I would use the rule to push myself to do it , regardless how I felt”, that is , she explained that when having goals in life and really want to achieve you must push yourself doing the things that need to be done even though you feel you don’t like it, for instance a person who is obese and strongly want to lower its weight , certainly he should practice sport probably three or four times a week so that he has to be disciplined and practice it even though sometime he feels couch potato especially in rainy days it will surely be hard for him to go outside and practice sport for hours under heavily rain but he must do it since he wants to achieve that ultimate goal. Therefore, doing that easily requires the use of the 5 second rule then immediately acting so that ignoring totally the brain and just focusing on the right goal. All in All, the book is a diamond that only the readers can see its brilliance when read it deeply because it will make life better when using and enjoying the magic of the tool, the five second rule. 

Accept it !

 

Accept what’s going on

Nathalien Braden a well-known American writer and psychologist, known by his famous book “self-esteem”, he wrote about how a person could be confident regardless of what could happen in his outside world in addition he pointed out that in order to go through any situation in life and face it strongly you only need to be tolerated with change whether good or bad, he says “the first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance’’. That is, Nathalen Braden claimed that the core of truly getting the change everyone wants in his life is the fact of being aware , aware about his thoughts , emotions , feelings so that knowing exactly what his real desires are or achieving that point of maturity that certainly play a crucial role in guiding his decisions as a result turning out his life for the better , which means that awareness is the most crucial part on this quotes for it is the core of acceptance , the point mentioned by the writer after awareness. Acceptance means accepting reality and freeing completely one’s self from doubts, anxiety, worries since when being tolerated with what happens in life concerning relationships or material things, we are surely putting ourselves into that peacefulness and calmness so that making our brain relaxing and working perfectly in which it can undoubtedly helping us to find solutions or going through whatever hard situation we were in. In other words, acceptance is what needed to be in each person in the world as it makes us in a totally powerful place that strength our awareness about life and that will certainly push us to do better far from what could annoyed and hijacked us from doing fruitful and helpful things to go forward as worry and stress which are considered the ultimate enemies of any human being. Byron Katie an American author points out “When you become a lover of what is, the war is over”, which means that the fact of loving your life or literally accepting what is happening in it you are likely to end a harsh war that was inside of you all the time and consequently starting calmness and peacefulness which are going to make you stronger and wise in a way that you will carefully and perfectly guide your life to its best.   

Actions speak louder than words

 ."The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing." -Walt Disney

Life is about acting not only hoping and planning. If you want to make your real impact in this word so that you fully need to take actions and go forward regardless of how much hesitation, procrastination or laziness you feel, just do it as the major words for Nike brand is JUST DO IT, forget about all what can disturb your thinking and start doing things as Walt Disney mentioned in his quote. Plus, life is created for courageous people, people that are not afraid of facing the music and entering to the unknown path since life is mostly full of surprises and changes, stop thinking about them and get started from where you are even from small things because we all believe that the trip of one mile begins from one step. Plus , taking actions and courage pave your way to get the life you have desired as the source of all creative things that could be done is only courage as well as action , never thing about what is going to happen if I do that or this because the fact of thinking lets your brain work against and this is scientifically proven , therefore when you want to do something and you know that it is right just do it and start and that the most important point here , which is COURAGE.in other words , Get started and forget about the rest.

Just do it

 

The world is full of events, so that we had to expect them anywhere and anytime as a result all we should truly do is to blissfully take the courage and actions. In other words, just do it literally means to catch every chance we could meet in that life without hesitating as when we are really courageous we may achieve all what we desire rapidly and easily. Taking that courage and just do things that feel right requires completely our full awareness about how much we will be proud of ourselves when doing the right things, we were never being able to do in the past. The fact of being aware leads us certainly to arm our chances. For instance, if someday we stick in a situation where we had to talk to the responsible and expressing all what we feel without getting fearful, that need to be done as it feels inside of you that it is the right thing to do in order to solve whatever the problem you were facing or to solve yourself from the bad situation you were in, even if we feel that we don’t like it. Inasmuch as we have done that, we will totally change several things in our life concerning our self-confidence, problem solved and other good things would happen just because you were courageous and you just did the what it felt right and that would surely help us for building our new version, a version full of confidence, courage and strengthen to face any situation that may happen In the future. That is, when we feel that the thing we are going to do feels right, therefore we should do it even if our emotions try to stop us.

Responsibility

 

 Responsibility, a heavy word with deep meaning as when someone who truly calls himself responsible means that he awfully has all the characteristics of it. To be responsible means to do all your best and never expecting something back because everything comes as long as you truly feel this word on you”. In other words, when taking firmly responsibility, all the rest will come back to you as a reward without getting attached to or expecting a lot. When a person is responsible he can be that one who people count on him in all corners of life as those specific persons are attractive , charismatics and are literally powerful for their only goals is to be loyal to what was given to them to do or even there’s another category of persons who were born with that sense of responsibility , they take it by their own and they didn’t wait anything from anyone so that they are completely responsible about their acts , their jobs , the works were ordered to do. That is to say, they have that sense of commitment and they never feel comfortable when there’s a lack of accomplishment in their life. Therefore, just be responsible about what you are doing and what you have done so that feeling your freedom and strength inside of you each moment you truly take whatever sort of responsibility needed to be taken.

Make your Impact

 Human being does really want to prove himself in whatever he is able or specialized to however sometimes he may face some difficulties that they push him to give up on thing he truly wants. However, what does works here is to have enough awareness and courage to push him out of his comfort zone and begin working on things he desires as the time when our life works is the time when we jump out our comfort zone and starting chasing our goals. Courage comes from our thoughts so that when knowing exactly what is going on our brain and managing those thoughts carefully we will certainly have that sort of courage we need to create our dreams, goals and desires because those thoughts affect the actions we take during our life. In other words, when we control our thoughts and try to switch them always to positive ones and decide to follow specific beliefs, that time we get our courage to make the push so that going forwards those goals. We need to make our impact, we are real and we do exist for reasons, and the core reason we all go towards is to serve others. That is , to build life full of benefits and help whether to ourselves , our country , our society or towards anything that we could benefit .Some people are struggling with their negative thoughts that can definitely stop them from progressing in their life and the only solution in this case is to switch their thinking and trying to replace it with positive one so that becoming a hopeful , grateful and happy person that will always attract positive events and persons into his life. As a results, taking courageous steps and go forward  what a person has always dreamed about.

Think about your present moment

 

The present moment is all what we have over our hands so that thinking whether about our past or our future is a big mistake. That is, when still living in our past and worrying about it means that we are completely focusing the energy we own to that moment and therefore we are about to lose ourselves because thinking about the past and guiding our thoughts to this sort of thinking makes us ignoring the present moment and what we should do for our future. The now is crucial for painting best future so that being aware of living strongly that moment and doing our best to build the future we have always dreamed of is totally important. Plus, dedicating all our feelings and thoughts for the right moment turn out the way we live as when being truly aware about what we are living and about any moment could happen to us lead us to forget all what we have gone through all the day or even all the previous days or years. For instance, playing with kids with all your feelings without thinking about anything makes you delighted and living in another world, the world of Now and nothing else. In other words, the fact of truly living and concentrating on the right moment pushes us to free ourselves from the negative thoughts and all what could disturb us since we are busy with our present moment.

Healing

 

Healing one’s self is surely a necessary act that every single one of us should try it as healing will certainly have an amazing effect in our life, healing has several meanings but what I truly mean is that moment when you are free and reconciled with yourself in every side concerning your feelings, thoughts, your future or past and even your actual moment. When we work to heal ourselves, we are surely making a huge step toward a better life, moments and feelings. There are different ways to heal ourselves for instance practicing yoga, a beneficial method to get rid of all what concerns the outside world and just staying in peace with our thoughts in a way that permits us to easily controlling them and be aware about all what is going on into our brain because being awakening about those thoughts is totally crucial to be in a real peace as when we control them we are certainly leading our life to the best. Thoughts are the main responsible for the events around us so that the more we switch each negative idea into positive one, the more we are making our life in its incredible format.

Bright Soul

 

Kindhearted, warmhearted or whatever name you want to use, is that pure person who definitely has no piece of evil inside of him. A person in which he is awfully soft and pure from anything that can easily turn him into someone cruel however he couldn’t be turned out as he is straight and believer of himself and precisely he is proud of his soul, a soul full of love, peace, generosity and hope. He is always trying to send as much positivity as he can to everyone he may face in his life for he believes that happiness is when making someone else happy. As human being we may suffer sometimes from anger, anxiety and stress however that pure person never lets those things control him or affect the person he is, therefore whatever happens in the outside world doesn’t affect as long as he didn’t give permission because all what it can touches or hurt the human being it can only through his own permission however few people can achieve that point of awareness as it needs time, lot of wisdom. In other words, that sort of persons can absolutely not be influenced by what happens in the outside world only if they do permit that to happen as they have their own beliefs, thoughts, feelings and thinking in which neither circumstances nor persons can affect them by any means so that the person who is truly pure from the inside can never be turned into someone else, someone bad. He may surely learn through his experiences in order to be wiser and quitter not cruel, that’s what does really mean a pure and kindhearted person. All in all, be always that person who is always kind, soft, lovely and most importantly shine with his brightness of love, forgiveness and peace.

the Magic of Awareness

 

To be aware means you achieved a step where you can go through a lot of things that they typically annoyed you in the past but now things turn out and you become that person who is both wise and calm. Awareness is the most amazing step in a person’s life that can definitely change his life to the best as it let him live in such a peaceful world full of forgiveness and maturity that he doesn’t give his precious attention and energies to little things found in many corners of his life whether are concerned with his relationships, job, or materials things. For instance, when someone hurts you, instead of reacting aggressively you only try to put yourself in his shoes and understand why he has done this that you react wisely with the situation, totally far from worry, stress and hate. That the core of maturity, the understanding and calmness. Maturity is not about age, it is about how much experiences you have gone through and how many lessons you have caught from them that they growing you up and take you to the level of awareness and maturity, so that experiences are certainly essential in every one’s path because they are the real teacher that gives you the core lessons that follow you your whole life and push you to the best version of you. Therefore, there is not bad or good experience for they are all considered the teacher that gives something in return you completely need to grow up strongly, never be afraid of facing situation in your life because they are the basic of the person you are going to be, the strong person ever. Push yourself, avoid fear and go ahead and become that wise, aware and mature person.

Pure Heart

 

Heart is the engine of our soul that’s why having soft and pure heart is the way to be a delightful person in every side of your life, if you have a pure heart regardless all what can hurt you, it means that you are literally a great person. Life is a sort of road where you can face struggles and difficulties but by owning a heart without any kind of malice, pangs of jealousy and the love of hurting others intentionally is a huge thing that can save you from anything bad because automatically when you own a heart like this you surely have bright soul and that lead in having an easy life as when you get rid of all that bad qualities you just do good and that will come back to you. When you don’t hate persons you will be in love with yourself and be loved by others which means having a life full of love and happiness without carrying about what others say about you or what they do , you will always have peace inside your inner world , each time you decide to ignore jealousy and malice you turn into a wise person empty of negativity and that could build you the life every one dreamed of , a life without hate , revenge or hurt as the events around us are the results of our thoughts , they reflect our mind so the more you are a peaceful person the more your life get calm and comfortable . It’s true that you may have problems and struggles came from relationships or from whatever they come, the most important thing is how can you deal with situation. if you chose to face it angrily and strongly you will get the same thing you have done as we know every action has a reaction, it is just a matter of reflection you do good you get good and the contrary. However, when you deal with it with wisdom and calm you will get the same results, solving the problem with a minimum of damage and more stability. All this can happen only if the person has a good heart which is the source of what can happen as it is the leader of feelings, emotions and mindset.

Memories

 

Memories, the best place when you go whenever you feel alone, worried or even happy. In other words, it is the place where it can hug you softly in all your moods, hopefully memories exist so that only by staying fix in our places we can easily travel through time and live again what we have already lived, if you are stressed you can fly to those magnificent moments and drift strongly into them again with all your emotions. Every single one of us has already experienced this and feel once more time those agreeable and unforgettable moments, we have memories with friends, family members, or even some special persons that enter in our life and make us the happiest person on earth so that thanks to all those things we can definitely travel and forget all what may stress us in the present moment. Sometimes the good memories can turn into bad ones when those people leave our life and take with them those memorable moments, however and hopefully they cannot take what they let us feel that moment, therefore our memories are always safe and no one can hijack them from us. In some moments we only want not only travelling to our memories but staying there as if there is no present moments we don’t want to return back .That is , all what is happening with us whether events or persons , each of them let its own touch and impact on us that we will never forget especially what do they let us feel because feelings is the precious thing that is within us endlessly so that we are always grateful for what happened with us and still happens as it is a sort of an impact that it will certainly change us in one way or another for discovering the  best version of us.

ENGLISH SPEECH | SELENA GOMEZ: Trust Yourself (English Subtitles)

Summary of The Book : Who Moved My Cheese by DR SPENCER JOHNSON

 

Who moved my cheese is a tittle corresponding to a well-known book written by Spencer Johnson. It concerns a crucial area in our life that one day or another we may face however when knowing perfectly the principles included on that book we will certainly be going safely through whatever situation that can face us, therefore the main concept of the book is change. A change in which it could happen during our life at any time as we are not guaranteed to be fixed on that specific position during our whole path so that when being aware about the change and that we should move with it and definitely not staying in our places complaining and waiting for the unknown and waiting for magic to make up things, that will be the push to something bigger and greater. The book talked about 4 characters, two mice and two men entering a mysterious place full of corners and rooms, so one day these 4 decided to go looking for a cheese in this place, they started their journey everyday waking up at specific time going for a run and trying to find where the cheese is, that situation has been repeated for a period until the day they found what they desired the cheese. the two mice and the men were extremely excited and delighted when finding what they’ve been looking. The two men came every day and eat from that cheese however the two mice continue their rhyme and went every day to run and look for another place of cheese. One day as usual cam the two men and all of a sudden the cheese was not there, it’s over they were under shock when seeing the place empty whereas the two mice didn’t get surprised about what happened because they knew that this day will arrive as they were always eating from it that’s why they went to look for another place of cheese, the two mice wear their running clothes and went directly for their new journey, no waiting, no complaining and no stressing. The two men stuck in their places searching for a logical answer about what has happened to the cheese, why it has disappeared and this shouldn’t happen because is their own cheese and they search for it for a long time so it must be there, they stayed in this situation for period of time everyday same questions and same complaining. At the time where this two were doing this, the two mice are running and looking for their cheese, they were ready for this and they are adapted to their situation and they were totally aware about this place as they have never stopped from running on it. One day , one of the men decided to move as he knew that nothing would happen if he stay stuck on his place with doing nothing , that’s life and change is what need to happen so that it’s time to move on with change and go for searching cheese even if inside of him there is fear from the unknown about he will face , about struggles he may face and specifically that he didn’t know anything about the place however he get that when facing fear is that time when feel our freedom , he wrote this on the room’s wall , he tried to convince his friend to move on with but the one other didn’t want he always wanted to wait . The courageous men started to move on he get out the room and walk toward the mysterious place running after new cheese, a cheese that would be a new beginning for him. He was running and feel that fear inside of him however he didn’t give up just keep on, he walked in his way and stopping time to time writing on walls what he learned from his decision, for instance he wrote that “when you believe that you are able to find new cheese and get enjoyed of it, that time your way changes”, or “enjoy adventure’s taste”, “move on with cheese”. The two mice finally found their desired cheese, it was as big as we can’t imagine it was like a mountain of cheese, so that’s their gift was given from their courage and their awareness of living with change without complaining or asking unbeneficial questions that leads to nothing in the other hand, the courageous man still in his adventure enjoying every moment there and most importantly, feeling the new cheese is coming and it will certainly be bigger and greater than the old one. The moment came and the men ended up by finding his cheese, even if it was not as he imagined but he is satisfied to it and at the same time trying to find a better one and not sticking in one place, whereas the other man always staying at his place without doing anything just fear, fear from the unknown and overthinking about how and why did the cheese disappear. All in All, the one who moves with change, is always the winner when he beliefs he can do regardless of what will happen, fear and unknown because that’s when we truly enjoy the adventure and get what we desire.

The Law of Attraction

 

The law which has no boundaries, no limits to stop it and it exists in very second in our life, it is the law of attraction. Law of attraction is that source of energy existed in person’s soul that attracts everything he feels , it may be strange and weird for some people but it does really exist as a person he automatically attracts all what he thinks , just see this in a person with negative mind , he has continuously only bad events in his life because he always has those ideas of sadness , doubt and anxiety toward anything he may face , that’s why the events around him are certainly equal of all what surround his mind . it is a rule and no one can deny this, we are applying this law in every moment of our life even if we do this unconsciously when sometimes we feel happy, all good things start to flow in front of us, that’s awesome. And now we know what this law is and how we can apply it, we only need to control our thoughts so that our life by immediately starting switching our thoughts from bad to good , from negative positive ones  and this is  simple  , just think about good things happened to you or some memories you have spent or even think about specific person that you love ! so that you immediately get that feeling of joy and happiness , as a result you attract all what equal that feeling , as we all know the events around us are just the result of our thoughts , Buddha says; if you want to change your life , so change your mind  , that exactly what I meant , just catch this saying and start the life you have always dreamed to have.

Stay Strong

 

People may face a lot of difficulties in their lives and that can definitely lead them to worries and weakness, however what should they do is to stay strong. I know that words are not as acts but it is as easy as it appears all what they need to do is to pretend to be strong as when we try to be like this our subconscious mind would be programmed to make everything just to let you be strong so that it’s only a matter of trying and pretending then everything come up and strength will be built on you. Human being is mostly guided by his emotions and feelings so that a little thing can hurt him and there’s a lot of things that can make him weak, disappointed and depressed , among those things is  losing a job , or losing someone we truly love in which is awfully hurt but this is life’s nature ,we have to get used to by trying again and again to stay strong regardless of what’s happening with us and staying strong means pretending to be strong and trying to focus on all the good things we have on our life then be grateful about them , that’s make us happier. For instance, be grateful about the family we have, or the person we are because we are simply unique with a magnificent soul and heart. Therefore, stay strong and be always focusing on the bright side of your life so that attracting more beautiful things.

Let it go

 

Nothing deserves your overthinking and worries because the fact that you become too attached to someone or something you will surely be addicted by stress and thinking that’s why you need one most important thing to save yourself as well as your life from drifting in and this thing is to let it go. let it go means you are freeing yourself from the outside world and from all what can disturb your tranquility so that you can feel the real you without anything only your free self, on this you truly get comfortable and swift. Let go all what you are attached to with your deepest heart, please do not put a lot of expectations on whatever is whether relationships, money, job or anything that can easily hijack you from peacefulness and calm because all what is happening in life is temporary, people change easily so when being aware of this you will never be disappointed when people leave you as this is life nothing lasts forever. However, when you let go you will appreciate the real meaning of life and live it strongly without expectations and attachments, you will be aware about all what is happening around and these moments, feelings and even persons are temporary. we cannot change this we should be adapted to and live every moment as if it is the last one so that enjoy it deeply J.Buddha said “ never put your happiness in someone’s else pocket”.

Gratitude

 

Gratefulness, the most beneficial act that we can do in order to get all what we desire. As when being grateful means you are grateful and thankful for all what you have and basically what you don’t have and that exactly the important point because the fact that you are thankful even though you don’t own that specific things that you truly want, the law of attraction begins to work. Law of attraction is the law of universe and it does truly exist when a person is grateful so that he is a sort of giving that high level of positivity and automatically becomes a source of attraction of everything good in this world. Plus, gratefulness equal happiness when you are grateful you are genuinely happy because happy people don’t complain about what they don’t have, they work on their goals by all means and never let anything disturbing them. In other words, they are happy about what they have and in the same time working to get things they do like and that simply the fabulous method to attract and get what you have always wanted. It’s totally true that sometimes we get disappointed especially in moments of weakness but then we do realize the reality of things and how universe work as we are completely aware about that law and about Allah gifts when a person is thankful and grateful about his life in its different corners. Therefore, to be a grateful person you only have to change your mind and decide to be thankful so that changing your life to its best version.